Posts tagged help
Posts tagged help
Though the person in the article refers generally to musicians, aside from the identifiers about “playing,” “musicians,” etc., this could very well just as easily work for dancers, singers, and other types of performers who may struggle w/self-confidence issues. And since I looked it up trying to find keys to boost my own confidence & much of it sounded good to me, I thought I’d pass it on. :) Hope this helps some of you, too. :)
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Ever feel lost amidst a tribe of bellydancers (or.. say.. here on Tumblr ;))- because you just don’t understand the lingo..? Or have you ever been conversing w/your belly sisters, when someone uses a term like it ain’t no thang, and you’re like “uh.. what?” ..but don’t wanna lose face by asking what’s what..? Well, NEVER FEAR.
Often w/bellydance, you really ARE speaking another language. (So -don’t- feel stupid for asking questions. And NEVER let anyone treat you like you’re less-than for doing so. No matter what level ANY dancer is at, we are ALL learning here, so the only stupid question is the one that goes unasked. ♥♥♥) Depending on genre, style, teacher, linguistic and alliteration influences (not to mention a bevy of other factors), bellydance terminology truly can span the globe. So for those who need a starter kit.. a refresher, or a helpful little go-to for those times when a bit of clarification is needed, this place might help. :)
Yes, there may be various ways to do things, say things, move things, or think of things in this awesomely paradoxical tradition-yet-creativity-driven belly-verse, but if you’re lost In the bedlah-strewn, taqsim-tangled, floreo-filled & choli-choked wilderness, it’s nice to know that once in a while you’ve got a roadmap to refer to. (..Even if your partners along the journey disagree about the pronunciation, source, correctness, route, and style of the map. ;)) Think of it as a dash-mounted, bellydancing GPS, if you will. -Only the voice output- is yours. :)
In the words of the mighty Tick; “Faaauuux Paaaas!”
If somebody slips a boner (as in- makes a pretty bad faux pas- onstage or off), do you (as in the personal “you,” not the general “you,” i.e. “you all”) tend to say something..?
-Do you speak up?
Do you feel it’s your responsibility to try & help folks out, or do you feel that your efforts might be construed as intrusive..? Are you the type of person who’ll help untangle a dancer’s fringe when you notice it has a big ol’ knot in it (perhaps stopping the dancer for a sec. so you can de-mangle it), or do you let them go on their merry way, trusting that they’ll eventually notice it..? This question occurred to me as I was making a little dancer pic on DollDivine tonight (when I noticed one of my pic’s elements was caddywompus), so I thought I’d pose the question to y’all, here. :)
..So, what do you do? Do you speak up, or do you feel it’s meddlesome..? Might you tag a troupe-member or teacher to pass along the word, so your mention is less likely to be taken the wrong way..? Or do rescue people knowing that you’d want the same, say.. if you had half a broccoli tree growing out of your teeth? (Of course, these latter examples are far less major, but still, the question still stands.) Do you feel that certain things are fodder for learning experiences, or (as in the initial examples above) are they simply matters of taste..?
I have my own thoughts on the matter (involving general stage-propriety and respecting certain aspects of public decorum), but if I can do so politely, I will always try to help out. (Subtly, carefully, and always w/kindness and forethought- unless it’s an emergency where I have to be like “oh sugar, c’mere!” *lol*) How ‘bout y’all?
Do tell! ^_^
(Photo by Gali Tibon, Candle Dancer; Miriam.)
Query: Do y’all think these are the same as these..?? Might anyone know..? They sure look about right… And though the ones from JoAnn aren’t in different colors, if they are the same.. DEWD! How cost effective!! XD
A year or so ago I bought the ones from bellydanceprops.com, and really liked ‘em (I got the cobalt ones). But it struck me that they might be something I could pretty much get anywhere (IF there wasn’t any one specific “official” type of holder dancers MUST use). So, when one of my 2 cobalt beauties broke recently (after much use- it held up a lot ‘til I came home from FaerieCon in Nov.), it seemed time to start shopping again.
I’ve been thinking about contacting bdp to just sell me one (as I bought mine from this exact page, originally), but since mine have a wee groove where my fingers can grip them on the sides to help hold them while my palms are splayed and my hands are flat.. I’m wondering if they will in fact ship me the exact same ones.
They worked well w/electric tea lights, but I never tried them w/real candles (as nowhere I ever danced allowed ‘em). But it’d be great to find a place that does allow flame, ‘cause I do so love the real thing. :) ..And if the ones on JoAnn’s page are indeed okay for dancing (ie., are the exact same ones as those featured on the bdp site), that’d be AWESOME. ‘Cause even if they don’t come in blue, for 12 holders I could afford to lend holders out, give them to people or have holders to spare! :D
Which reminds me: Are there any set candles and/or candle holders a girl should have, specifically for performance..? Of course I know there are considerations like height and width, “hand” and such, to ensure both safety & grippability, but.. if there aren’t, perhaps I could find some crystalline-looking ones to dance with. ^_^
Ooh.. plus.. that also gets me to thinkin’.. (a dangerous thing, we all know ;)). This line of thought has reminded me that I’ve been lusting after those palm toches for a good long while… Hmm.. there has GOT to be an affordable pair available SOMEWHERE online… ^_^
Either way, yay! Fire!! ^_^
So.. I have a mermaid-inspired show coming up- at an open mic variety night! ^_^ I’ll be singing and dancing, and while I have much of it planned out, I am in need of help w/2 major things: 1- I need a stage name- like PRONTO! I’m afraid “Ylluria” will be way too hard for most people to pronounce (let alone the announcer), and while I’ve pondered variations like “Yluria,” the same conundrum still applies. I’ve pondered Ilaria/Ylaria (which to me mean “from/of music,”) but these are both used for bellydancers elsewhere. So now.. well.. my crisis w/naming seems to be kind of coming to a panicked head… o.O Meeeeeep! Yo estoy completamente lost!
Secondly; might anyone have suggestions for costuming or makeup..? (I am a HUGE mermie/selchie/undine/waterling fan and I have some ideas, but my tastes span the gammut and I’d love your thoughts/input. :)) I’ve been thinking a hugely drape-sleeved, silver show-girl kind of thing (you know, like the grande dammes of the stage world used to wear..? The long dresses w/the great almost Tudor-style sleeves..?) as well as of a silver abaya/galabeya.. or even a silver and blue cabaret-ish outfit- covered in sequins, rhinestones, and/or paillettes.
The second piece is an old-timey tune about a plus-sized bellydancer called “Egyptian Ella,” and the whole piece has a relatively old-fashioned, torch-singery/30s-50’s feel, so I think I’m going for a more Cabaret look and style for this one. :) I love anything mermaidy or water-related/inspired, so anything figure-flattering in that arena would be great! ^_^ (So folks can get an idea of my general shape so they can formulate the best ideas; I am short & relatively busty, w/a small waist and -ample- curves below that.) As for links to costumeries or specific outfits, as long as it’s silver, blue, or some combination thereof (and of course, plus-size-friendly), I’m open. :)
Whatcha’ll think..? Now that it’s confirmed, the nerves are taking hold, and my brainwaves have suddenly snapped into panic-stricken static mode… *lol* Thanks so much for any help/ideas! ^_^
*bats big, brown doe eyes at you all imploringly*
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Names, names everywhere, and not a one that fits…
As I prep for my first completely un-associated-with-school show, lately the question of naming has really been pressing on my mind… More heavily than it usually does.. which, if you know me at all, is a pretty great, ever-constant weight. I’ve had a long-standing love/hate relationship w/names ever since I was little, and now that I’m embarking on my dance performance journey, finding a good name is -really- important to me. It goes deeper than just finding something that sounds pretty. It’s gotta resonate w/me on a deep, emotional & spiritual level too, plus exemplify the qualities that I’m looking to embody as a dancer, in addition to the qualities I’d like to evoke and whichi I hope to cultivate in my dance pursuits. (I know, no easy task, right? ;))
I often conjure up names myself, and in addition to the many hours of naming research I’ve done online. Then, when I find stuff I like, I take numerology into account. If I come upon a name whose numbers don’t work for what I’m looking for, onto the next. And while I still do such things now, I’m starting to wonder if this is weighing too heavily on my search and ability to find something that works for me… ..Do you/have you done anything like this? Are there certain things that help guide dancers to their “right” names (spirituality, family history, etc.), or do y’all just pick something in a book or out of the ether that *feels* right..?
I’d thought I’d found my name, but kept getting told that it was too complex and no one would be able (or willing) to read / remember it. So, I’ve had to go back to the drawing board. (Apologies for the bad artist’s humor, there. ;)) What characteristics do you look for in a good dance name? Have you found certain things really work in the realm of dancers’ monikers, and/or seen/heard some things that really don’t? What do you think about people who name themselves after deities or major historical figures? Do you find it egotistical, or feel that they’re just seeking to embody the characteristics of that figure in their dance/work?
When finding a dance name first occurred to me 3 years ago, “Ananda Y/Iara” came into my head. Last year I thought I’d research the words, n’ found out that they mean “blissful/happy” and “water lady/water goddess,” which are, for me, pretty damn perfect. :) -But over time I’ve found that “Yara”/”Iara” is already used here n’ there in bellydance, and I’d really like to prevent using a stage name that’s already in practice. So names like “Iruuna” and “Lyara” started coming to me, “Yllyria” and “Yl’aria” work nicely in sound and numerologically as well, and even combining stuff like “Iruuna Yara” has occurred to me. (But I figure if I go that route, why wouldn’t my original set-upon “Yluriananda” work..?)
Hell, I’d just use “Ylluria,” but the numbers don’t work out, and when I shift the spelling to get them to work, I’m not too terribly fond of the look of them. (“Eluria” which has been done to death, and “Yluriya,” which just soooo doesn’t look right to me…) :P So now I just feel totally lost…
Do you have any thoughts, ideas or suggestions..?
Many Thanks & Great Love,
Hey all. This doesn’t deal w/bellydance, but this is an issue -tremendously- dear to my heart, so I’m spreading the word, here. I know some of you out there are in my hometown locale, and this is important information that literally could save innocent lives.
To those of you in NoVA, DC & MD (or heck, even in areas thereabouts), if you know -anyone- even -pondering- giving up their cat please let them know: The Fairfax County Animal Shelter’s cat cages are -FULL.- Therefore _ANY_CAT_LEFT_THERE_WILL_BE_EUTHANIZED,_ regardless of age, temperament, color, breed, etc. In other words; they simply cannot take in any more cats, so any cats left there will be KILLED, OUTRIGHT. No wait, time, no stay of execution, just -killed.-
Therefore, please, please let people know that if anyone in the area is considering rehoming their cat, they can contact Animal Allies, King Street Cats, or Viola Lawson (which has a recently renovated and large cat space).
And even if you don’t know anyone w/a pet, even if you simply know someone in the NoVA/DC/MD area, please pass on the word & boost the signal. The more aware people are, hopefully the less likely it is that someone will drop a loving kitty and innocent life off at the shelter, to be needlessly euthanized.
♥ Thank you for reading this, and for passing the word on. ♥
This truly is a matter of life and death. ♥♥♥